“Some participants said Ray highly encouraged them to stay inside, scolded them for leaving and ignored repeated pleas for help. His attorneys say participants were free to leave as they pleased and Ray was unaware of any problems until after the two-hour ceremony ended.”
Read the full article from BusinessWeek here:
“Twelve Tribes members share their income and eschew self-interest in favor of a communal lifestyle, and the group is guided by a reclusive leader known as Yoneq.
Some have called the group a cult, although its members cringe at that word. In Massachusetts, New York, Tennessee and Vermont, critics have drawn attention to the group’s recruitment practices, its strict rules and the lack of wages paid to members.”
Read the full article here: http://www.signonsandiego.com/news/2010/jan/18/north-county-group-disputes-cult-depiction/
The Murfreesboro Post published an article today about Shari Howerton’s new book Breaking the Chains: Overcoming the Abuse of a False Gospel. Howerton describes finding independence after being involved for 43 years in a religious cult:
“Only after I left did I become aware of the level to which I had been controlled and conditioned by fear,” said Howerton. “I would have anxiety about whether or not God was mad at me for leaving ‘the Body.’ Through that struggle, I became more and more aware of my chains.”
Read the full article at the Murfreesboro Post website:
http://www.murfreesboropost.com/howerton-pens-book-on-breaking-chains-of-false-faith-cms-20971
Follow the Movieline link to read excerpts from Haggis’ resignation letter. This portion will be of interest to the Join Us community:
“You might recall that my wife was ordered to disconnect from her parents because of something absolutely trivial they supposedly did twenty-five years ago when they resigned from the church…Although it caused her terrible personal pain, my wife broke off all contact with them. I refused to do so. I’ve never been good at following orders, especially when I find them morally reprehensible.”
http://www.movieline.com/2009/10/paul-haggis-renounces-scientology.php?page=all
Tags: church, cult, Paul Haggis, Scientology
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Right after leaving Mountain Rock Church, my husband and I visited a few churches. In fact, a few of the families who had been in the cult came with us the first time. I think it had only been a few weeks since we had broken up the cult. Maybe a month.
The church was really big with tons of people crammed into the auditorium. I don’t remember too much about the particulars. I just remember at some point looking down the aisle at my family and friends all lined up side by side. Every face was pinched. Every shoulder tight. Every back stiff. I don’t even remember what we all said afterward about the experience. I just remember that one moment.
A few of us have gone back to church on a regular basis. Some have officially joined congregations and are very happy with the community of believers they are connected with. Some of us go to church every so often– maybe still looking for a good fit, only wanting small doses of organized religion, or being unable/unwilling to delve any deeper than surface level. Some of us do not go to church at all. Haven’t gone for years now. Have no desire whatsoever to go again.
At this point in the game, I am in category B. We have only been to church once in the last 9 months (maybe that puts me in B1/2 – closer to C than I realized). I don’t know. I just don’t get much out of it. Maybe if “The Ultimate Church!” were near us, things would be different. But, as it is, we have to drive an hour one way just to get to where any churches are, so seriously, unless that church is really amazing, it’s not worth it to me.
I used to feel so strongly about finding a really great church that I would have moved anywhere in the world just to be a part of that. With that mind set, I ended up in a cult. I think I will take a more relaxed approach toward the subject now. So, I am not totally closed to the idea of church. I just don’t feel like it is an essential part of life.
Tags: church, congregation, cult, Kristy, organized religion
Telling people that I once was in a cult is like telling people I was born with six fingers or I was abducted by aliens. The reaction is about the same. They look a little confused at first, like maybe they didn’t hear me correctly. Then the looks of disgust (at my being such a freak, I suppose), pity (at my probable insanity), and suspicion (that I have just inadvertently criticized their beliefs) flit across their face as they try to quickly put on their game faces. It is unnerving to say the least.
I probably should not bring the subject up. At all. Ever. But, I have not figured out how to avoid the topic yet. That could be because I am only 29 years old and a very large portion of my adult life (age 19-26) was monopolized by the event. So, there are not very many things to refer to in my adult life outside the circumstances of the cult. The problem could also lie in the fact that I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. That’s a nice way of saying I have no filter between my brain and my mouth. I think it, I say it. Not the best way of communicating, but we all have our faults.
I’ve heard from some of the families that were in the cult that they have been told time and again by various significant individuals (like school guidance counselors, therapists, etc.) to not tell anyone about their cult experience. They believe it will ostracize them and cause more harm than good. Sounds like good advice.
So far, none of my friends (even new ones) have run screaming away from me, though. Nor has anyone recommended a long vacation at the local loony bin. People are just too reserved for that. No, seriously, outside the initial reaction, my cultic history has yet to adversely affect my personal relationships. I guess, my shining personality wins in the end!
People who don’t know me personally, however, are another story. For instance, some people who have seen the movie or heard our story but don’t actually know me seem to hang on tight to their initial reactions of disgust, pity, and suspicion. That makes sense though. They don’t know me or anyone else who has been through this type of experience to be able to relate.
Tags: beliefs, communication, cult, Kristy, relationships
After many moves across places like South Carolina, Tennessee, and California, our little family is residing in Big Sur, CA. We are very happy here. Big Sur is a small community of openminded, kindhearted locals who are always ready to laugh, love, and share with anyone in their path. It doesn’t hurt that Big Sur is one of the most beautiful stretches of coastland in America.
We went through so much displacement after the cult. That’s really the best way I can think to describe it anyway. For the last 4 years, I guess you could say we’ve been looking for our “niche” – a sense of belonging, connection, and contentment. I know that a lot of people would say if we had just applied ourselves, we could have (maybe should have) found that anywhere. All I can say is that we are happy here: surrounded by awe inspiring natural beauty and way from religious traditions and expectations (the people here are very independent in their choices, behavior, and beliefs). We are enjoying how easily we are able to step back and slow down here. I think that is what we have needed so badly after all the struggling and stress of the cult, the loss of my dad, and the chaos of the economy. We have finally gained a peaceful existence, at least as peaceful as you can get with two little ones running through the house!